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Why are WE single?

Ladies and Gentlemen welcome to the first joint post with one famous and unique single Keshi. I only know her for a few weeks, but we got along pretty fast and share some common points of views or facts like being single ;) Why/how we decided to write this post together? well it started when Keshi commented on my post of the Fairytale love story that happened to my friend, from a reply to an other...a post was born! So it s gonna look like that: why is Keshi single will start first followed by why am I ;) So now that I m sure you are all wondering why two lovely and charming ladies like us are single....enjoy ;)

PS: It might me the longest post u will ever read if u consider the fact that both Keshi and I looooooove loooooooong posts;)
PSS: feel free to use the comment area to leave ur thoughts for both Keshi and I, WE will reply ;)

PSSS: if u want to be nasty cause u're not strong enough to handle two hot chicks like us then skip the comment section ;)


Thanks beautiful Cess for this great idea! I feel privileged doing a joint post with a single, hot, smart and happening chick like you, all the way in France. We do share a lot in common when it comes to our eternal single lives lol, so it's good to put our thoughts across and see what's going on...and let the readers ask us questions as well as give us their opinions. So here I go:
Many people do ask me why I'm still single (being the hot sexy smart and witty momma how can I be single right? o nos the world should have ended yesterday!). Well the answer to that is quite simple. Cos, I'm not desperate.



ok ok calm down, that was just a joke. The real answer is not that simple. As much as I'm loveable and adorable *love me love me doooo!*, I'm not a donkey. No, this time it's not a joke. Most men do think that women are their donkeys. The first few courting days or even months will be so romantic and I'll-do-anything-for-u-babeh kind. But later on, when the rosy flush from the I-just-met-u moments vanish, when the suga candy first few dates are over, the man becomes a donkey rider *no pun here!*. Here's why:

-The man watches TV all day long
-The man expects food on the table and the washing done
-The man leaves the toilet seat up and dirty towels on the floor
-The man scans other women

-The man becomes stingy

-The man brings down his massive family and expects his woman to smile all day long
-The man starts working long hours

-The man is a momma's BOY and clings on to her skirt

-The man no longer wants to go out and have fun

-The man gets jealous when his woman talks to another man

-The man feels insecure about the woman's career

-The man thinks the woman's tears are fake and boring

-The man shows his true colors

-The man shows the MAN
-The man expects

-The man expects

-The man expects



yes, I better put a stop right there before I repeat the same line again and again. Most men expect their women to DO everything for them. btw it's no longer 1924. C'mon guys, grow up! I'd rather be single than be a donkey.
I mean, I have seen my mum, aunts, married friends and cousins who do everything as per their husband's wishes - some even stopped their careers and stopped wearing short skirts? To me, there has to be mutual respect, love and commitment. There can't be one person doing everything at any emotional costs, or changing their whole lifestyle just to suit the other.
To me, that's not love...that's a business plan. Commitment doesn't mean kissing, having babies and then watching FOOTY all day long. It's much more than a physical need. Hence, I haven't found the man I think I can spend the rest of my life with...not yet. Don't get me wrong, I'm not looking for someone perfect...


I just want a man who can love me for me, and not for someone he wants me to be. So simple a request yet so hard to come across. Go figure!

Now that Keshi explained u why she is single, it is my turn ;)


-the wrong signals:
what is WRONG with you guys??? Seriously, when it s black it s black, why are u giving me some signals to make me believe it s yellow?
When u re calling me sweetie/my love/babe and I m not your friend-friend what should i think?
When u ask me to be with u tonite and cancel my plans and u don t show up, or when u re begging for it and u re coming with 3 friends, what should i think?
When u re telling i m pretty and then u asked me for my friend phone number, what should I think?
For some reasons, nowadays, men are sending more and more wrong signals, now of course not all the men are like that, and I might misunderstand the signals but comon!!! Specially when u write... be careful, cause I have enough to believe it s yellow when it s black, going to a point that i don t pay attention anymore to any signals and might miss something good!


- i don t want to date a woman
Have u ever been dumped like a woman will dump a guy (according to man s description of it). The typical break-up sentences like:
" it s not you, it s me"
" I did not have the sparkles" seriously!!! U re daring to say in front of my face u did not have the sparkles??? What kind of man will say that?
" [silent]" yes, my favorite one, u don t return my calls, u avoid me when u see me. I don t say i will spend the rest of my life single, but if i do have a man, i want a real one, I don t need to date a woman, I am a woman ;)
More and more, I don t know if it s the new generation, if it s a European thing, but men are getting as complex as women, damn it, this was OUR thing. Saying something when thinking differently, from my recent previous relationships I had the impression I was the man in the couple.
ME: what do u wanna do tonite
HIM: what you want
2 days later
ME: what do u wanna do tonite
HIM: what you want
1 wee later
ME: what do u wanna do tonite
HIM: what you want
Will you ever take a decision...once, u might say 'yeah today i want to go to a movie" It does not mean i ll say yes to everything u say but I need a challenge, it can be fun to do it just to argue with u, I don t need a man who does not take a decision, follow me like my kid ;) Don t be a woman nor a kid. You can be sensible and understand me, YES, but be a MAN too, is it too much to ask? Tell me, i d like to know!


- wrong place:
ok this one is pretty personal. As u know or not i m French and I m living in Ireland for professional reasons. Now I have been there for 3 years, I had some 'fun' definitively and I don t regret it but I can t possibly see myself living in Ireland for 2 main reasons:
-the weather, I m from South of France i m used to hot summer not rainy year ;( even if it s been 3 years, I haven t get used to it.
- the food... sigh...booohooohoooh (me crying)....booohooohooo (me crying again) Food is a part of a culture in France, food in France is like Religion in India. I m from a family who gather around in the kitchen, cooking with pleasure, for family, friends, friend of friends! My fridge is full of water only, no saucisson, paté, vegetables ;(
So why am I saying that? I don t see myself involved in a relationship here in Ireland, I don t see myself fall in love with the somebody here, mostly because I don t want to stay here in the future and I don t want to go through a break up if i know already that i will leave this country.

- I am a strong and independent woman:
my parents raised me in a way that i can take care of myself no matter what, and that s what I ve done until then. I m also not a girly girly, I have some friends that are able to laugh to a man's joke even if it s not funny, to make him feel funny or confident. Well I can t , man if the joke is not funny ....it's not funny! why should i laugh. I mean I can do the girly girly, the one who needs a tough man to take care of her... for one day! but i m not the kind to lie, i am who I am take it or leave it that s it. I have done some compromises in my previous relationships and I don t regret them but don t be with me and try to change me completely cause it s not gonna work.
Years ago, and u kind of learn it when u are a child, the Father is one who decide, he is the Chief of the Family, the one sitting at the end of the table waiting for his wife to serve him. Well things change, u can sit at the end of the table and i cook for u today, how about u do it tomorrow for me?


Yes, I m asking for the equality, because I don t need a man to change the wheel of my car, I can do it. I don t need a man to pay for everything, cause I have a job. No, I need a man who I can share things with, raise a kid with, fight with, somebody than can support me but let me free to take my own decision...
I know it s a lot to ask, and because of it I might spend the rest of my life single. As for now, I m happy with me being single, I have a work who keeps me occupy, I have many friends, and lots of male-friends (that I hope will still be my friends after this post).

Phew!!!!! I think we are done with this post now ;) Now it is your turn to ask us questions or give ur thoughts ;) Keshi and I will both reply to ur comments ;) In the mean time you take care people!

222 people read it till the end and comment on it ;):

Hemanth Potluri said...

@kesh

all men r not the same yaar..some still live to love their women ..i hope i found one...but i to could not find the person who loves ...there r still women who to expect something always..:)...

The man is a momma's BOY and clings on to her skirt

is it wrong loving his mom...i dont say to stick to her skirt after being into a relation also..


wow ur views r like ...wen i first read i had a good laugh..lol..and thought thinkin that in which category i come ...i had one choice..but this was past..i used to work long hrs..not anymore..now decided to enjoy life..;)...


@cess...


my god...

hahahahah

ME: what do u wanna do tonite
HIM: what you want

is it always like this..then i should think of a different answer soon ..hahaha...

I am a strong and independent woman


i liked this part of explanation...:)..

I m asking for the equality

thts true u dont need a guy to change ur wheel or anythng..but to care for u u need a guy :)...


wow u both guys rocked...and btw i am single ready to mingle ..lol...hahah

urs..hemu..

Gayatri said...

lol.. you girls kickass!

Cess, I would written something along the same lines a month ago, but right now, ahem, I'm not too sure I should be nasty to men :) :)

--xh-- said...

interesting view points. One day I will do a post why a reasonably good looking,fun to be with guy like me stay single. You both have given me some food for thought.

Cess said...

@ Hermanth

hey,

++is it always like this..then i should think of a different answer soon ..hahaha...++
I am sure u are a really nice and u like to please ur GF/wife and it s cool right, but yes sometimes, u can say what u want to do, it does mean u will do it, cause she might tell u no, but if she does, keep coming with new ideas, she might like one ;) Arguing can be lots of fun tooo ;)

++thts true u dont need a guy to change ur wheel or anythng..but to care for u u need a guy :)...++
Exactly!!! Hope he will understand it too ;D

++wow u both guys rocked...and btw i am single ready to mingle ..lol...hahah++ he he :D

tc
C.

Cess said...

@ --xh--

++I will do a post why a reasonably good looking,fun to be with guy like me stay single. You both have given me some food for thought.++

I m glad we gave u some food ;) (at least i can even though my fridge is empty ;)). And i m curious now to see ur points from a man side ;)

tc

C.

Cess said...

@ Gayatri

++ Cess, I would written something along the same lines a month ago, but right now, ahem, I'm not too sure I should be nasty to men :) :)++
I know, and i m happy for u u know it!!!!! I hope it will work GREAT for u!!! Lucky lady.

tc sweetie

C.

Keshi said...

heyy good job Cess! :) Love the post and the pics woohoo!

I will back to reply to the comments later on. A bit tied up with work right now.

And oyeah I better put a link to this post thru my blog :)


tnxx MWAH!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

tnxx Hemz!

**all men r not the same yaar

did i say ALL men r like this? I didnt. These r only some of the men I've come across and my friends hv come across :)


Hemz its ok to love ur mum, but when ur in a r'ship, a MAN must learn to make his own decisions. I've often seen alot of GROWN men depending on their mums to make r'ship decisions. And its quite shocking.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Gayatri tnxx ;-)

So u found a REAL man ha? cool girl lol!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty XH!

**One day I will do a post why a reasonably good looking,fun to be with guy like me stay single


do tell us here wut u think abt MOST single girls u come across :) wud be nice to learn something from the opp sex too.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Cess I cant stop laffing @I dun wanna date a woman! hahahahahahaha Im stil laffing - for 3 days now, after reading ur draft :):)

Keshi.

descrying the shadows said...

ha ha .. @di & keshi
you know yesterday this girl, s friend of mine was talking to me about marriage(mine) and that she felt that the way i spoke about it I thought of it as fun ... Y she though that way ? well because whenever she asked me what kind of a girl you want .. I said any kind will do , no specific picture perfect in my heart.. and she was like " see .. thats why i say u take it as a joke. its about ur LIFE Partner sid." well politely asked her to quiet down and then told her something that i want from the woman who marries me and I think this is exactly what u both want as well ..
"Look, i can live with almost any person who is good and has some flaws or bad habits.. I can because be it friendship or love the only real condition I impose on a person when with me is that , they should be their natural self .. and not change anything about them .. even if it is a small habit .. why ? If i cannot love and learn to love even the bad in you .. i can never be happy with you .. and vice versa holds true as well .. but that does not mean tht if u think smthing is really bad about me i will expect u to nt ask me to change it .. no .. i dont expect that .. u can, and i would try but if i fail u shud understand that i tried and not have any grieveances about it ... and the other thing is I expect absolute frankness .. u dont like smthing i am doing .. say it on my face and i will love it .. hide it under the excuse of making a sacrifice for me .. sorry .. that will only infuriate me ... y ? 1) frankness is absolutely vital for me in a relationship..
2) i believe in individuality .. u r an individual so ur individual needs are as important to you as mine are to me ... so u will take ur own decisions .. i wont help u with them till u ask me and its absolutely necessary ,only i will help .. but no matter who took the decision I WILL face the consequence with you .. being one does not come at the cost of giving up individuality .. there are a few adjustments we make .. but at no point should they suffocating or discomforting"


i guess why people go wong is or rather where they go wrong is when they expect the other person to change ... and well you do have the gender issue also ... but even keeping that out of the picture essentially its the "Great expectations" that land u up in trouble ...
a mother would love her son even if he was the worst kid on the planet .. then why not the same between a husband and his woman ??
why cant ppl tolerate the bad in their partners when they can in their kith and kin ..?
why do u have to add a new dimension to this one relationship ??
thats why you both are single .. I guess ..
PS: you both thought only you could do long posts ??? well here you go .. looooong comment :P

Hemanth Potluri said...

@keshi

yeh there r many who depend on their mom's but...if the relation is not correct the person starts dependin on the other women who really knows him well...think abt it yaar..but it is a rong thing also to catch mom for his decisions..and its shockin i know..;)...

@cess


hahah i like to please my gf/wife

**if i had one lol..told na i am single..;)..hope i find one ...:)..otherwise suggest me a good gal like u or keshi...;)..

urs..hemu..

Keshi said...

I agree Shadows :) well-said!

Expectations lead to disappointments, but u cant not expect nothing in a r'ship. When u said u want ur individuality to be respected, that in itself is in EXPECTATION. :) Im asking for the same. if u dun wanna change, dun expect me to change either. We can ADJUST but that doesnt mean drastic changes.


**why do u have to add a new dimension to this one relationship ??
thats why you both are single .. I guess ..


whats the new dimension we added here? :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

**that in itself is AN expectation

@Shadows. Sorry abt the typo!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hemz its ok to ask mum abt certain things...I do too. But to choose mum OVER one's partner is something u need to sit n think abt. I hv seen SO MANY men like that.


Keshi.

Arjun said...

t'was a long post indeed!!

thoughts for both of you - keep at it. But please note that though all MEN are dogs... some are better bred than others.

I prefer bubble blowing to blowing trumpets.. but I know enough men today who will do their share and some more.

Men have expectations. So do Women. We all have expectations in a relationship. And the universal truth i learned - expectations reduce joy.

I understand your individual points on the virtues of being single. But human beings weren't meant to be alone. We are social creatures.

I realized that it was all very nice to have a great set of friends.... be popular... respected.... but it came to nought when I got back to an empty house.... my wife made it home!

descrying the shadows said...

for me to ask u to maintain ur own individuality is an expectation ... ! well yes ... it is .. but tell me is it too much to ask ?? or unfair ???
expectations in a relationhip ...
well u know a relationship has some needs some basic needs like faith love understanding .. expectations are .. my wife will cook everyday .. neeed is she trust me i trust her ...

and i did not mean you both
i meant people in general
why wen u can take imperfections in ur kith and kin can you not tolerate them in your life partner ... that was the new dimension ppl have added

Keshi said...

WOW nice one there Arjun!

I agree..we all do hv expectations. But when its at the COST of another's emotions, it becomes a burden.


**But please note that though all MEN are dogs... some are better bred than others.


lol I know. Just hoping I'll find mine :)


Indeedz, both men and women r MADE to hv a partner. u mat hv everything in life but if u dun hv love, u do feel lonely. Spot on there!

And tnxx!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Shadows :)

Read my reply above to Arjun on Expectations.


**why wen u can take imperfections in ur kith and kin can you not tolerate them in your life partner

Thats cos love between kith n kin is not the same as love between man and woman. Its NATURE.


Keshi.

descrying the shadows said...

u know my father has taught me that when we are born we are placed on the circumference of a sphere which has been created around both my mom and dad. slowly as we grow we start creating our own sphere till one day they land up at the circumference of our spheres .. then comes marriage and two centers become concurrent and two spheres merge .. and when this happens remember .. you both are the center around which everything else revolves sustains ... the greatest affinity should exist between the two of you in those spheres .. if that does not happen a family can never survive .. thts in reply to ppl talking about loving moms..
with time relationships and their priorities have to change .. not the intensity of feelings of affection .. the priorities have to .. because when ur together it is no longer you .. it is the two of you ...

descrying the shadows said...

@ keshi .. there by saying its nature you have added the new dimension ...
I disagree .. why ? I have seen my mom and dad ... had they not been that way .. i wud never have had a family life ..my wife need not be perfect ... nor near perfect .. for me she should love me and have faith and trustin me and i shud return the same ... it starts at that and ends with that .. every other obstacle will be overcome ...

btw ... this point of acceptin the flaws comes after u think u r in love .. not before that ..
else i wud have to marry anyone on the road ... ;)

Chriz said...

hahaha.. keshi and you rock....
i just came to know abt your kinda writing.. kewl indeed...
and am a big lova of keshi's writings... i am happy that i am introduced to yet another sweet writer...

The man leaves the toilet seat up and dirty towels on the floor ... hahaha.. good that he doesnt pee on the seat

Cess said...

@descrying the shadows

Y am i not surprised to see u there, writing long comments in this post ;D
I don t have much to add, I guess u and Keshi already comment on it a lot ;)))

++a mother would love her son even if he was the worst kid on the planet .. then why not the same between a husband and his woman ??++
Now, I m not too sure about that, if my kid become paedophile or a serial killer!!! no I won t be able to love him at all, It will be worst than if it was a partner, because he is my son, a part of me is in him, but i won t be able to forgive him nor love him anymore if he s doing something like that. Now, I believe this is also part of the education and my kids if i had some won t become a serial killer ;)

++well u know a relationship has some needs some basic needs like faith love understanding .. expectations are .. my wife will cook everyday .. neeed is she trust me i trust her ...++
Did i understand it well, Ur wife will have to cook for u everyday, is this one of ur expectactions????

++can you not tolerate them in your life partner ... that was the new dimension ppl have added++ again, there is some things i believed (like i said earlier) that I could not tolerate from my kids, as for life partner, we are both adult, we expect the other to act differently than ur own kid (as i said, i don t want to date a kid ;). In ur kid there is a part of u in it, that s y probably we have the tendency to tolerate it more than with a life partner. Is it that bad?

Plus Keshi nor I are looking/waiting for THE perfect husband! It won t be everything is perfect, nice, i love u, u love me kind every day I think we know that ;)

C.

PS: and stop spamming the comment tab!!! ;DDDD

Keshi said...

Shadows hey...

** the greatest affinity should exist between the two of you in those spheres

I dun want anything GREAT...just NORMAL will do. lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

**..my wife need not be perfect ... nor near perfect .. for me she should love me and have faith and trustin me and i shud return the same ...


who said we want a PERFECT man? cos there's no perfect man. lol lol lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

haha Chriz I'd be lucky if he didnt piss all over my bed or vomit after drinking too much ewwwwwwwwwwwww!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Cess ;-)

**Now, I m not too sure about that, if my kid become paedophile or a serial killer

hahahaha! so true!


yes we aint waiting for the perfect man..cos no point, there's NO perfect man u see lol!




Keshi.

Cess said...

@ Arjun

++Men have expectations. So do Women. We all have expectations in a relationship. And the universal truth i learned - expectations reduce joy.++
Yes we all have expectations in any thing relationships / work/life and it does reduce joy but who to blame? I guess we all have to deal with it, but we can also bring/add some joy by having some friends, or be with somebody ;) There is no perfect relationship nor perfect job, it is U, me, everybody that have to increase that joy ;)

++I understand your individual points on the virtues of being single. But human beings weren't meant to be alone. We are social creatures.++ I know that, and again, I m not planning on staying single at all, it s just getting more and more complex these days and I think i have enough complex things to handle right now that i don t need one thing to take care of :D

++but it came to nought when I got back to an empty house.... my wife made it home!++
True, though i m sharing a house now, with somebody that i ... the less i see her the merer, i wish i can live by myself it was the rent was not SOOOO expensive! But i would not mind living by myslef finally, at least for a while not for the rest of my life ;)

Thanks for u thoughts ;)

C.

Che said...

Men will be men, women will be women and there will still be plenty babies to go around.

Of course no one is perfect, the beauty of a relationship is that you make the other person perfect and they make you perfect. for each other. A little understanding, sacrifice and compromise has to be made by both the people for a relationship to be successful.

hmm I am known to leave weird comments.

PS: I hate taking decisions! true blooded Libra male.

Cess said...

@ Chriz

Thanks for passing by ;) glad u liked it ;D

++ The man leaves the toilet seat up and dirty towels on the floor ... hahaha.. good that he doesnt pee on the seat++
Well well, that i m not so sure actually ;) so men are pretentious to think they can reach the toilet far away from it which in most the case they can t, but they don t bother to go all the way down to the toilet so y would they put the toilet seat up. And this is definitely NOT pleasant when u (girl) woke in the middle of night to go to the bathroom without the light one or sleepy enough to not pay attention if ur dude/brother/dad took the decency to leave the seat up when he was doing his business :D

cheers

C.

Cess said...

@Che

++ Of course no one is perfect, the beauty of a relationship is that you make the other person perfect and they make you perfect. for each other. A little understanding, sacrifice and compromise has to be made by both the people for a relationship to be successful.++
AMEN, we re not asking for perfection that s for sure!

++hmm I am known to leave weird comments.++ don t ya worry, there is nothing weird on it, u haven t read mine yet ;)))

++PS: I hate taking decisions! true blooded Libra male.++ yeah but it s also nice when the men is taking a decision it should be 50/50 ;)

Thanks for dropping by

tc

C.

Cess said...

@Keshi

++who said we want a PERFECT man? cos there's no perfect man. lol lol lol!++

he he, so true, we did not say we need a perfect, maybe they think that we want a perfect man because WE are PERFECT ;DDD (now i m joking)

C.
PS: the comments part is as much fun than the post part ;)

descrying the shadows said...

@ cess .. Di .... i love cooking and often like to eat what i cook .. so umm yeah .. my wife .. well she will have to do with what i cook many times ..
and girls .. plz ... i never said u both wanted perfect men ... i just expressed my side of it .. mummmyyyy Di .. you and keshi are combined attack ... not fair ... x(
he he lol ...
di ..
be a mum first then maybe if u still say the same .. i will fully agree..
u may be pained by the acts ... but the love will always be there ..
I dunno maybe u guys are right ... but thts the way i have always looked at it ... love is love be it ith ur mum or dad or wife
the physical limits changes but at the very basic level is the emotion different ? the relationship is .. but is the emotion different ..? having said that is love a relationship or an emotion ???
@keshi ++affinity +++ its nt about wat ur expecting girl .. u may want only a very normal relationship .. thts fine .. but at the end of the day the bond between a man and a woman should be the strongest ...

@cess
AND I WILL SPAM .. u r in google .. go do smthing about it
:P

Cess said...

@ Sid
++mummmyyyy Di .. you and keshi are combined attack ... not fair ... x(++
I told u in the post only comment if u can handle to strong and independent hot chicks :)

++be a mum first then maybe if u still say the same .. i will fully agree..
u may be pained by the acts ... but the love will always be there ..++
I am pretty straight forward i think u should know that by then, not only with my friends but with my family, it happened i got mad with my dad and haven t spoke to him for month and my dad is not a serial killer. So i don t say it will be easy, no it will the HARDEST thing probably but i won t be able to love somebody who killed a little girl i can t, whether is my son or friend, things might change, but i hope i ll never face that moment, well hope nobody will face that moment.

++AND I WILL SPAM .. u r in google .. go do smthing about it ++
there is nothing i can do about that, u re free to speak Bhai.

tc

Di

Enigma said...

hahahhaha...wow gr8 post both u guys....and its so true most of the time...i hav alwasy been the independant, strong kind and it was disgusting wen most of the time most of my friends saw me just like another guy among them and used to call me up to set them up with my friends...phewww...

well i'm lucky to say that i got a really good hubby, who is so concered abt me, is willing to do everything around the hse so that i can relax and hav a good time, who looks into my healtha nd stuff...now apart from my worl, i still get disgusted wen men give MCP comments...

last week i was os damn furious wen one uncle i knew said -- huh me coook??? as if its the worst sin in the world and that his wife has to do it all...

Cess said...

@ enigma

++ it was disgusting wen most of the time most of my friends saw me just like another guy among them and used to call me up to set them up with my friends.++ I know what u talkin about :( hate those guys, can t they do it themselves?

++well i'm lucky to say that i got a really good hubby, who is so concered abt me++
Lucky u, I m happy to see there is still good men in here but most of them are already married... or too young ;)))

++ huh me coook??? as if its the worst sin in the world and that his wife has to do it all...++
he he, I m a bit feminist, I would have have a challenging discussion with uncle ;)

tc

C.

ani said...

weelll well its my turn for leaving commenttsss.. yeesss lol.. trying for a somersault.. hehe but na..
thiss is like my fav topic mann..
and kudos to u both its a lovely post :) huggggzzzzz

here i go..

keshi

what u said is so true.. yes we are not desparate.. we just need some one to be there for us.. who would just love me for me, and not for someone he wants me to be. or someone he thinks could be me.. no thinks there..

"The first few courting days or even months will be so romantic and I'll-do-anything-for-u-babeh kind. But later on, when the rosy flush from the I-just-met-u moments vanish" thisss is sooo true.. as days goes by.. we r soo ended up taken for granted.. lookin at other girls n then tellin .. even u have got guy friends.. n u hang around with them.. but then i dont oggle?? helllooo there is a difference..

yes i dont mind keeping things tidy.. when come to it.. i prefer my room tidy.. ok my desk doesnt count.. but my bed and rest of the room sure is tidy.. but that doesnt mean i prefer to be a maid servant ???? and some time it wouldnt hurt to tell what u want.. because am sure none of us a telepathic..

cess..

this is my first time on ur blog.. and am sooo blog rolling you.. :)

u know even i have problem getting the signals rite.. or sometime i end up picking up only the wrong signal.. may be because of that i might have lost something good.. err i hope not..but then it could be a possibility.. because i'm one person who doesnt get hints.. i prefer the elephant to land rite on my nose.. than been told it in a subtle way.. because i just dont get it..

and then i meet guys who send me all this mixed signals.. and because of this i dont know how to respond..
hehe when u actually wrote the conversation with me and him.. i remember doing that once to a guy.. because all the time i used to make plans.. n i got fed up.. and then i just waited to see if he would make plans.. so this time he asked me whts the plan n i said u decide.. hehe the guy just went ballistic.. hehe

oh well.. i know how it is.. considering i'm in the uk myself.. n i cant see myself settling here.. unless am getting married to an indian guy.. but then again.. the signals.. oh well..

hope ur fridge is stocked :)

take care u both.. hugggzzzz

Cess said...

@ani

Well first of all, welcome here ;)

++u know even i have problem getting the signals rite.. or sometime i end up picking up only the wrong signal.. may be because of that i might have lost something good.. err i hope not..but then it could be a possibility.. because i'm one person who doesnt get hints.. i prefer the elephant to land rite on my nose.. than been told it in a subtle way.. because i just dont get it.. ++
LOL, so funny, i m really the same!!!!

++and then i meet guys who send me all this mixed signals.. ++
he he, see men are getting even more complex than women now!!!

I m glad to see i m not only woman in that situation ;)

tc

C.

Swats said...

‘Wondering why two lovely and charming ladies like us are single’ MAKE THT 3 Cess LOLZ

Im happily single!

Superb post! Made a lot of sense..understanding a man is a Herculean task!

A lot of men say(a common grouse)-“Women expect us to b expert mind-readers. Firstly they don’t open their mouths and say wht they actually want. And then they pick a fight for not getting it. either way, we v screwed.” LOLZZZZZZZ

It’s a fallacy tht v women can’t change car tires, can’t drive, can’t park. In fact women make excellent carpenters, mechanics and plumbers wen situations/circumstances demand..wen v need to b...v no longer depend on men for such trivial issues!

Cheers to womanhood, rather SINGLEHOOD!

Keep up the good work KESHI n CESS

ani said...

trust me deariiee...

you are not.. hehe there are loads of us out there.. hehe and am sure we can just go on and on..

sometimes i just wonder its because either of us dont know what we want.. and just end up saying the most random things that come to our minds..

hehe and yes like u rightly said i thought we were the complex ones.. oh well.. guess things are changing after all..

like i said i have blog rolled u.. hope u dont mind.. :)

Cess said...

@ swats

++MAKE THT 3 Cess LOLZ++
Yeaaaah welcome on board ;)

++understanding a man is a Herculean task!++ it is and it s getting more and more complex!!!!

++Firstly they don’t open their mouths and say wht they actually want. And then they pick a fight for not getting it. either way, we v screwed++ he he well said Swats so true ;)

++ no longer depend on men for such trivial issues! ++ true, we re strong and tough women, now deal with it ;)

++Cheers to womanhood, rather SINGLEHOOD! ++

Cheeers!

C.

Cess said...

@ ani

++hehe and yes like u rightly said i thought we were the complex ones.. oh well.. guess things are changing after all.. ++ I think so too, things have to change, not always the one we want but it s life what can we do ;)

++like i said i have blog rolled u.. hope u dont mind.. :)++
I don t mind at all, I ll pass by some time soon too.

C.

Hemanth Potluri said...

my god cess...u brought lot of singles to this post let me select one for my future gf...lol..as u said of ur frnd dashin car of her husband...i to will dash some one lol...hahah...my god so many singles dint know..;)..

urs..hemu..

Cess said...

@hemanth potluri

++u brought lot of singles to this post let me select one for my future gf...lol..++

hehe, who knows u might found the one here, it would so freakin awesome if somebody could meet somebody else through this post!!!!

I hope Keshi and I will be invited to the wedding ;)

C.

Prakhar said...

What can I say...we surely are rare breed :D

I am sure...getting perspectives of two gals will definitely help in future relationships...some good nd valid points there :)

.. being single really sucks...but its better than being in all the failed relationships!

Cess said...

@ prakhar

++What can I say...we surely are rare breed :D++
Hehe

++...some good nd valid points there :)++ I am glad u acknowledge them ;)

++ being single really sucks...but its better than being in all the failed relationships!++
better being single than not so well accompany ;) but not for too long though ;)

Thanks for passing by

Cheers

C.

Prakhar said...

@Cess

**but not for too long though**

totally agree wid ya...u got to keep tryin...

~Hemanth~ said...

Ok, reading the comments section took longer than reading the post.

Wow! and that is all I have to say. Most of the things have already been taken and run into the ground.

Cess said...

@ ~hemanth~

++Ok, reading the comments section took longer than reading the post. ++
that s the thing when u do a joint post with 2 girls who love to talk/write ;) not only on post but in the comments as well ;)

+Wow! and that is all I have to say. Most of the things have already been taken and run into the ground.++
It s already enough, hope u enjoyed it.

Thanks for passing

Cheers

C.

stony said...

@Keshi/ Cess

Good post. Hope variety of ideas will pour in to help relationships.

The men are pampered by their women at the start of relationship. The women enjoy doing house chores to the point that man starts treating it as woman's responsibility. This is nicely explained in "Men are from Mars...". If only woman and man agree upon certain boundaries on day one, such issues will not surface.

Ogling and envying are no longer male prerogatives.

The real challenge for both men and women is to decipher what is spoken into what is expected.

And you get quickly bored with what you have and miss what you don't have. Consider this -

Too much and too long of caring by man bores you and you crave for chutzpah and arrogance.

A man too much talking about/ fond of cooking may upset you.

You want your man, who bottles up things, to open up and you want your straightforward man to be tolerant/ considerate.

You want your freedom/ fashion loving partner to secure future and you want your stingy partner not to be money-minded.

And especially to you, Cess.

Men used to be accused of arrogance, toughheartedness, uncaring attitude... forcing their whims at there partners. This is changing now. Boys have started crying. Men are becoming sensitive enough to give precedence to what their women want.

The likings/ preferences change from one woman to another and with time. A woman may like her man to be submissive and aggressive at different times.

So the real answer is your partner should be apprised about what you are looking for at a given time.

A man's capability to qualify to be your man does not depend only on his attitude and behaviour but also on his ability to know your mind.

Cess said...

@ stony

'The men are pampered by their women at the start of relationship. The women enjoy doing house chores to the point that man starts treating it as woman's responsibility.'
Hold one one sec, the woman enjoys doing house chores? so u seriously believe we like to do that?
I don t know where u re coming from, but in Europe I don t think we enjoy doing it at all, if i make enough i d rather pay a housekeeping person and enjoy my time with my BF not vacuuming the living room!

++If only woman and man agree upon certain boundaries on day one, such issues will not surface. ++ unfortunately it s easier to say it than do it, i d love to see my husband clean the floor ;)

++The real challenge for both men and women is to decipher what is spoken into what is expected.++
and it s going in both sense now, before it was always the man complaining he has some hard time trying to understand his girl, now it s get complex for us women as well to understand men:)

++And you get quickly bored with what you have and miss what you don't have. Consider this -
Too much and too long of caring by man bores you and you crave for chutzpah and arrogance. ++
I did not get ur points here, can u explain it again?

++A man too much talking about/ fond of cooking may upset you. ++ really? Men if my man is cooking i will be delighted!!!
It s 50/50 thing it should not be always the woman.
As for a men that talk too much there is not such thing, u can t talk as much as a woman (at least me ;))


++You want your freedom/ fashion loving partner to secure future and you want your stingy partner not to be money-minded.++
Fashion loving partner? what is it? I m looking for a model! Did I say secure future? No I m only asking for a guy who can take care of himself cause i m not his mother, and i can take of myself (money speaking)

And especially to you, Cess.

++ Boys have started crying. Men are becoming sensitive enough to give precedence to what their women want.++ so? it s good to have a man sensitive, not as sensitive as a woman for sure cause I don t want to date a woman, but u re free to express ur feeling! But it s more an Indian thing from what I ve seen, cause we still have lots of tough/arrogant dudes around here.

++ A woman may like her man to be submissive and aggressive at different times.++ yes a lots of men like the same thing for woman, is it a pb?

++A man's capability to qualify to be your man does not depend only on his attitude and behaviour but also on his ability to know your mind.++ usually as u can see by my answers i m pretty straight forward, once i m in a relationship i m really dedicated to it, and usually the person what i want, I m not saying something while thinking differently ;)_

Thanks u so much for passing by and bring some challenge ;) here, hope u ll reply back cause i m curious.

Cheers

C.
PS: are u single btw? ;)

Southpaw unplugged said...

This is quite a generalised post.

SMM said...

Hey I managed to read the post from start to end Cess & Keshi :)

Anyway, I'v been married for about a year and a half now. Many of my friends haven't even thought about marriage yet while some are just starting to think about it. All I'm going to say is that I had a ball of a time as a single and I am still having a ball as a married woman. If there are days when Arjun comes and puts his feet up with a beer, then there are also days when he cooks and I put my feet up with a breezer (hate beer).

One piece of advise I give all my single friends is that don't look for perfection ladies. Your not prefect, no one is. Don't look for Mr. perfect either. Then your only going to be hunting all your life. And give the guy a chance. Setting high standards without telling him how high he has to jump is unfair.

This post is semi-humorous and semi-serious. So I'm not going to harp anymore. All I'm going to say now is - Have fun ladies as of now :)

Cess said...

@ SMM

++Hey I managed to read the post from start to end Cess & Keshi :)++ Good job!!!

++One piece of advise I give all my single friends is that don't look for perfection ladies. Your not prefect, no one is. Don't look for Mr. perfect either.++
he he, we don t ask or look for perfection, actually we don t look at all for now ;)
I m happy u have a bless as married person.

Cheers

C.

Cess said...

@southpaw unplugged
++This is quite a generalised post.++
Are u making a point here?

C.

Bla said...

U R amazing - I'd marry U both. :)

Southpaw unplugged said...

Well i m myself a highly judgemental person, but i dont prefer to generalize issues....thats the only point, rest its all individual experiences from time to time.

ishita said...

seems like a post tht m gonna have to forward to the single women i know :)

I'm on the other side of the fence as kesh here wld know! with no major complaints about my life :) ... i can however relate to the post coz my best friend's single and I get to hear a lot of this from her perspective...

sumtimes I think her life rocks...and sumtimes she feels the grass is greener on my side! I think it just depends on how we take life ... single or committed.

Cess said...

@ ishita
++seems like a post tht m gonna have to forward to the single women i know :)++ hehe, but it s also good to have the opinion from a married to see if it s greener in the other side too ;)

++sumtimes I think her life rocks...and sumtimes she feels the grass is greener on my side! ++

I m sure there is always good and bad being single or married like in other situation ;)

Thanks for commenting
Cheers
C.

Cess said...

@ southpaw unplugged
U have a very interesting avatar picture for a judgemental person ;)

++i dont prefer to generalize issues...++ we don t generalize either, we re talking men in general based on previous experience, but it surely does not mean that ALL the men are like of course!!!! ;)

Thanks for clarifying ;)

C.

Southpaw unplugged said...

@Cess
U have a very interesting avatar picture for a judgemental person ;)***Thats one of the best thing i hv heard in last few days...:)

Abhinav said...

Ohh! Not all men are same.. although they are very similar.. ;)

It's good to be single till you fell in a strange feeling people call love!

ohh touchy comment.. ooohh la la!

Cess said...

@abhinav

++Ohh! Not all men are same.. although they are very similar.. ;)++ I know they re not all the same ;) see there is u ;)

++It's good to be single till you fell in a strange feeling people call love!++ that s cute ;)
LOL
Tc
C.

stony said...

** Hold one one sec, the woman enjoys doing house chores? so u seriously believe we like to do that? I don t know where u re coming from, but in Europe I don t think we enjoy doing it at all, if i make enough i d rather pay a housekeeping person and enjoy my time with my BF not vacuuming the living room!**

House chores here meant some of the work we don't like to outsource like keeping the room clean, washing/ ironing clothes, cooking etc. I come from India where enjoying such chores is not unusual.

It sure does not apply to all parts of the world. Hence this confusion. I should have been careful.

** unfortunately it s easier to say it than do it, i d love to see my husband clean the floor ;) **

Yes, it is difficult. Those who are serious about continuing relationship do it sooner or later. Others don't do it and live a miserable life/ break up.

** and it s going in both sense now, before it was always the man complaining he has some hard time trying to understand his girl, now it s get complex for us women as well to understand men:) **

True. Understanding opposite sex is hell of a job for both men and women :)

**I did not get ur points here, can u explain it again? **

You said you don't want to date a woman (an over-sensitive / undecisive man). When you are with such man, you want him to act like a MAN. But if you have an overbearing, arrogant man for a partner, who forces his decisions on you, you wish he had included you in decion-making.

** really? Men if my man is cooking i will be delighted!!!
It s 50/50 thing it should not be always the woman. **

Exactly. This is what I meant by setting boundaries.

** Fashion loving partner? what is it? I m looking for a model! Did I say secure future? No I m only asking for a guy who can take care of himself cause i m not his mother, and i can take of myself (money speaking) **

This was just to say that if you have a money-splurging spouse, you want him to save money for future. And if the spouse is stingy, you want him to splurge money.

** so? it s good to have a man sensitive, not as sensitive as a woman for sure cause I don t want to date a woman, but u re free to express ur feeling! But it s more an Indian thing from what I ve seen, cause we still have lots of tough/arrogant dudes around here. **

Please see my earlier clarification on over-sensitive/ overbearing partners.

** ++ A woman may like her man to be submissive and aggressive at different times.++ yes a lots of men like the same thing for woman, is it a pb? **

Not at all. The point is we don't like a person who is always submissive or always aggressive.

** usually as u can see by my answers i m pretty straight forward, once i m in a relationship i m really dedicated to it, and usually the person what i want, I m not saying something while thinking differently ;) **

Yes. You are pretty straightforward. But when you want to be romantic with a partner, you don't say so. You only leave subtle hints for your partner to understand what you really want.

** Thanks u so much for passing by and bring some challenge ;) here, hope u ll reply back cause i m curious. **

Thank you too for your patience. Incidentally, I hopped over from Keshi's blog to your blog. It was nice being here.

** PS: are u single btw? ;) **

No. Can I still participate in your blog? :)

ani said...

Stony ..

House chores here meant some of the work we don't like to outsource like keeping the room clean, washing/ ironing clothes, cooking etc. I come from India where enjoying such chores is not unusual.

well i have seen more ppl actually out sourcing them.. than doing it by themselves.. for the sake of convinence.. i think it would make sense more for the couple to share things.. there is no harm in having a break n puttin up one's feet.. but then to expect that.. women love the job.. that wouldnt be right..

so i would say it depends on the person and their circumstances.. n nothing to do as an european or indian thing..

i have seen more ppl here who do their own house keeping and cleaning.. than folks in india were we have got maid servants to do the washing n cleaning..

Cess said...

@stony said...

++House chores here meant some of the work we don't like to outsource like keeping the room clean, washing/ ironing clothes, cooking etc. I come from India where enjoying such chores is not unusual.++ we don t really outsourced here too not in my circle of relatives or friends for sure but i surely don t like to do chores except cooking that i don t consider that for a chores but more a passion ;)



++You said you don't want to date a woman (an over-sensitive / undecisive man). When you are with such man, you want him to act like a MAN. But if you have an overbearing, arrogant man for a partner, who forces his decisions on you, you wish he had included you in decion-making.++
he he he ain t gonna force anything on me, i m a bit feminist on that, and certainly not submissive, i can do compromise yes, but if u force so it ain t gonna happen twice cause i ll have kick ur ass already ;))

++This was just to say that if you have a money-splurging spouse, you want him to save money for future. And if the spouse is stingy, you want him to splurge money.++
Arfff I don t like stingy people, so I don t see myself livin with one i m still for the 50/50 like buying a house together etc etc

++Yes. You are pretty straightforward. But when you want to be romantic with a partner, you don't say so. You only leave subtle hints for your partner to understand what you really want.++
ok ok, i said in general im pretty straight forward but i m also creative enough to bring some romantic flavor when needed ;)


++Thank you too for your patience. Incidentally, I hopped over from Keshi's blog to your blog. It was nice being here.++

It s a pleasure to have here, do come back from time to time ;)

++No. Can I still participate in your blog? :)++
Of course u can still participate in it, it s even better to have people single or not, from different countries ;) pretty cool

Tarun said...

Good to see a trans-ocean intercontinental posts.

I have been mulling over a joint post better never found someone to collaborate.

So some kudos coming scross from cyberspace for u two girls.

This as a spicy post which everyone would have to take with an extra pinch of salt.

The image where theres a guy and gal standing below a one way sign sums up the whole post for me.

Cess said...

@ tarun said...

++I have been mulling over a joint post better never found someone to collaborate.++
We did not plan for it actually, it just came out of nowhere, just by replying to a comment!! Anything can happen! ;)

++The image where theres a guy and gal standing below a one way sign sums up the whole post for me.++
YEah sometimes pictures can say more than words ;)

Thanks for passing by, don t hesitate to come back, i like to have opinion from countries all around the world ;)

C.

Tarun said...

Well,since its a girls post and wont get into whether a prespective is right or wrong?
Its futile I believe.

I often sit to reason out these things but I never reach to any conclusion.

I know this post would be seen as mud slinging, I realize that it isnt.

I know it is tough for anyoe to be single,relationships are tougher to say the least but then thats a challenge, "baptism by fire."

:P

Jack said...

Cess and Keshi,

I am addressing Cess first as it is her space but for me both of you are equal. You are both young, intelligent and witty. However you are wrong on one point - all fingers are not same. There are men who would love to have an equal partner, may be in minority. Do be independent but not stubbron. In strom it is big trees which fall but supple one survive. Woman is in fact strong and can make or mar a man.

I request you both to read my post Happy Married Life written last month at my space

o3.indiatimes.com/niceguy251

and if you find time do read Happiness is in your hands written in Dec 2007. And one more Strenght of family.

Keshi, I have posted a comment on your last post too.

Take care both of you.

Die Muräne said...

Could you please make a podcast out of these long posts? So I can hear it while I have a look at the comics... ;D

Cess said...

@ jack

++ However you are wrong on one point - all fingers are not same. There are men who would love to have an equal partner, may be in minority. Do be independent but not stubbron. In strom it is big trees which fall but supple one survive. Woman is in fact strong and can make or mar a man. ++
he he, I think we haven t been enough clear on this one, from my point of view, Keshi will speak for herself, I did not say that ALL the men are the same, nope, and for god sake thanks for that, but it s my base on my previous relationships, where i ve been through to handle men like i described in the post ;)


++I request you both to read my post Happy Married Life written last month at my space ++
I ll pass by there to read it, thanks for the link

Thanks again for passing by.

Cheers
C.

Cess said...

@ Tarun

++I know this post would be seen as mud slinging, I realize that it isnt.++ If people think it s a mud slinging, they did not get the point of it ;) I could have been more clear on some points but hey I m not that perfect :D

++I know it is tough for anyoe to be single,relationships are tougher to say the least but then thats a challenge++ Well I don t think relationship is tougher than being single though, we just have different pb, obviously i don t have the pb a couple have, but when I do have a pb i m the only one who can sort it out, rather than a couple they are 2 to fix that pb. The only thing is the pb is different!

tc
C.

Cess said...

@ die muräne

++Could you please make a podcast out of these long posts? So I can hear it while I have a look at the comics... ;D++
he he, too much work dude ;) keep reading ;)

Thanks for passing by ;)

C.

stony said...

@ Ani

** i think it would make sense more for the couple to share things.. **

Yes. I 100% agree with you.

** there is no harm in having a break n puttin up one's feet.. but then to expect that.. women love the job.. that wouldnt be right.. **

Are many women not passionate about cooking just as many (but fewer) men are? My point was that at the start of relationship, both partners go overboard to please each other in their own ways. Women generally would do cooking etc and men eventually start believing that cooking is women's job, a fact that women resent later in life.

Many women just don't take up cooking from day one. In such cases, both the partners share cooking or hire a cook.

If you refuse to accept men not putting towels at right places, leaving toilet seats wet on day one, I am sure you can prevent brewing up of some major complaints against men.

Incidentally, I know many men who are passionate about cooking and mad about housekeeping. They spend lot of time cooking and doing housekeeping. Their wives must be in conjugal bliss? No they are not in many cases. You crave for these qualities in partner only when he doesn't have them. Otherwise you wouldn't even notice them.

Donn Coppens said...

The fact that you two scrumptious self actualized individuals are single out of choice speaks volumes. If you were desperate or insecure you would grab Mr Goodenuff and be done with it.

There are 3.3 Billion Y chromers out there and my guess is that thousands of them would meet your exacting standards in every department. However, since you understand that physical attraction is largely a chemically induced state, you attach the caveat that aside from having some SCHWING these fellas also need to be considerate, mature, intelligent, kind, polite, well-mannered, well spoken, well-read, well-informed, hard working, goal oriented, forward thinking, punctual, decisive, tolerant, patient, hygenic, creative, sociable, hilarious, empathetic, compassionate and plain old passionate, sensitive, loyal, altruistic, imaginative, responsible, independent, gracious, generous, and exceedingly thoughtful.

Well good luck I think that my wife got the last one.
*snorts

AmitL said...

Hi,Keshi and Cess- lovely idea- a joint post..and,What a topic.Many of the 'points' had me smiling while reading it.
*if u want to be nasty cause u're not strong enough to handle two hot chicks like us then skip the comment section ;)*

LOL- now, that was quite a challenge,I'd say.So, let me make a few 'observations'
---
Keshi,the 'donkey rider' part..I think a lot of the aspects relate to our subcontinent,where there are joint families/traditional ways/conservative people, even today. So,if it's not the Ma-in-law, it's some other family member,who's provoking the guy to 'demand his rights',which is what makes him watch TV/expect food on table, etc.The solution?Jerk the rug-move to another city/country,or,let the guy go alone(Like I did*wink*,though I was never sooo bad),and the importance of doing one's own work gets realized.In that sheltered environment-no way-the situation will always continue,there'll always be ego clashes,nasty people waiting around to pick up the pieces after each fight,etc.Once a level of maturity sets in,the couple can cope better with such situations,and,the expectations from each other become more realistic(Albeit,never perfect).At least,I believe that.You used the key words'mutual respect, love and commitment'. Very true!
---
Cess,I can see why u feel bugged-by people just taking you for granted,and sending out the wrong signals.Of course,it's slightly tougher for me to understand,coz the Indian mentality has a somewhat different frequency.But,it seems that some of the people you mentioned,just wanted a joy-ride.Right?
---
*I need a man who I can share things with, raise a kid with, fight with, somebody than can support me but let me free to take my own decision...**

Yup,being a couple,still,giving each other one's personal space,and respecting each other's decisions-it does seem a bit too perfect,but,if egos on both sides are minimal,it can work out this way.
===
Whew-I did it-the first time I replied to two different people in the same comment.:)
===
Now,let me ask both of you:
Since the perfect scenario is never possible, what is the 'bare minumum' target you'd set,to get the right partner?

Hemanth Potluri said...

@Cess

first find me a gal yaar...then i wud call u for my weding...ok lets have a deal..

i wud find the perfect guy for u and u find me a perfect gal..u or keshi anybody :)..

urs..hemu..

Princess Mia said...

totally loved this post.......i could so relate to it to...cos i'd join the single gang too....

@keshi

probs in a relationship start when u starte expecting from eachother n yur expectations r not inne.....

the biggest mistake ppl make in a marriage is thinking things will change after marriage or i will change him/her.....people dont realise that we cannot change anyone, we have to accept them the way they r...along with their good bad n ugly habits....

n gone r the day when one partner has to make all the sacrifies , i too think its both ways , 2 ways...

@cess
*I don t see myself fall in love with the somebody here, mostly because I don t want to stay here in the future and I don t want to go through a break up if i know already that i will leave this country.

excellent babes....not many people think like that....many ppl just get into a relationship just for the heck of it....

its my first time here....absolutely loved yur post...will be back to read more...

btw yru from south of france....i have heard so much abt that palce....i fancy going tehre hope i can make it some day....where in south of france r u from eh? take care gals

bisous!!!

ani said...

stony

its right that if things are decided before hand itself then its fair ..
there are some instances where we can make amends and prevent things from happening..

but then that doesnt mean all is bliss.. its not very difficult to have a mutual understanding about things.. all i was trying to say.. was it wouldnt be right to take everything for granted..
yes like u said am sure there would be loads of guys who love to do the cooking.. but tht doesnt mean all is well..
everything has got its saturation point.. over and above which.. things just don't seem to be right.. its finding that path which is difficult.. u r bound to have differences.. but then surviving through them.. thats the whole point..

Vinz aka Vinu said...

keshi,

in india its mostly woman who are glued to tv with those soap serials..!!

and i guess for whatever point you had written there can be a counter point againt women..!! so dont give such lame excuses and find a guy and get married..!!

:)


@cess,

you cant marry a woman..!!

funny..!! and who asked you.. do you feel there is a scarcity of real men..??

:)

Cess said...

@Donn Coppens

++There are 3.3 Billion Y chromers out there and my guess is that thousands of them would meet your exacting standards in every department.++
Actually I heard there is 1 man for 4 women :( if u remove the married one, the gay one, the psycho one and the grandpa there is not much left :(

++Well good luck I think that my wife got the last one.++
LOL, that was HILARIOUS, ur wife is pretty lucky then :)

Thanks for passing by

Cheers

C.
*snorts

Keshi said...

Im bak Cess :) whoaaa good job girl, u've taken care of many comments by urself BRAVO!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Che u said that beautifully, ty!

**taking decisions

is usually a hard thing for both males n females :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

And like Cess said, when making decisions it should be 50/50.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Cess!

**maybe they think that we want a perfect man because WE are PERFECT


lol u r sooo sweet!

Also, mebbe cos some of the men here do sound really 'nice' ;-) I wanna meet them u know!



*HUGZ*


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Shadows!

**but at the end of the day the bond between a man and a woman should be the strongest ...


I agree...:)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

haha Enigma how old is that uncle? mebbe 100yrs old.

Im glad u got a nice man for urself. Eventually every girl gets what she deserves...and ur a terrific woman!


Keshi.

Cess said...

@ AmitL

Hey, welcome here, i m only gonna reply to the Cess part since well i am Cess ;)
---
++But,it seems that some of the people you mentioned,just wanted a joy-ride.Right?++
Yes or sometimes, they don t want anything or worst they want to date my friend!!! but they start to be 'nice' with me, i d prefer frank people who come to saying 'listen i wanna date ur friend, do i have a chance?' and done, we re not in preschool anymore!
---

++ Yup,being a couple,still,giving each other one's personal space,and respecting each other's decisions-it does seem a bit too perfect,but,if egos on both sides are minimal,it can work out this way.++ he he I already said i m asking for a lot, but i m ready to do some compromise as well ;)

++ Whew-I did it-the first time I replied to two different people in the same comment.:)++
Congratulations!!!

++Since the perfect scenario is never possible, what is the 'bare minumum' target you'd set,to get the right partner?++
jeez, that could take an other long post for the answer, actually it really depends of the day, i ll tell u i prefer dark hair guy, and the only one i fell in love with was blond so i ll tell when i ll get one ;)

Thanks for passing, was a pleasure to read ur comment!!!

tc

C.

Keshi said...

** it happened i got mad with my dad and haven t spoke to him for month and my dad is not a serial killer

haha ur crazy Cess! This is why I love ya. :)


Keshi.

Cess said...

@Hemanth Potluri

++ first find me a gal yaar...then i wud call u for my weding...ok lets have a deal..++ I ll put u on my list cause i already have some guy asking me for that, I should set up a matrimonial agency ;)

++ i wud find the perfect guy for u and u find me a perfect gal..u or keshi anybody :)..++
There is no such perfect guy i m afraid we are all already screwed!!!

:D

C.

Keshi said...

aww ty Ani!

I know u love this topic, just like me lol!


**but that doesnt mean i prefer to be a maid servant ???? and some time it wouldnt hurt to tell what u want.. because am sure none of us a telepathic..


I agree. There'll always be differences between men and women. Its best to TALK abt it than EXPECTING to u'stand naturally.


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Swats WC to the Kick-ass Single Womens Club then LOL!


I sooooo agree with EVERY word u said. So spot on!

We women, even if we remian single for the rest of our lives, CAN SURVIVE on our own. I drive, Im the HandyWOMAN at home, I pay my own bills, I LIVE. :)


Keshi.

Cess said...

@ Princess Mia

++ totally loved this post.......i could so relate to it to...cos i'd join the single gang too....++ sadly welcome aboard if u just joined the single club recently :(


++ excellent babes....not many people think like that....many ppl just get into a relationship just for the heck of it....++ well some need it just for the sex part ;) like F@#$% Buddy :)

++.will be back to read more...++ u re more than welcome to come back ;)

++....where in south of france r u from eh? ++
again u re more than welcome to pass by France, originally i m from south south :) in a city called Nimes next to the sea, but since i moved 20 times ;) my parents are now living around Toulouse still in South, and yes South of france rocks (u can see previous post, have been recently to south of France ;)

tc

C.

Keshi said...

Ani the moment I meet a nice looking dude with a good personality etc, its bound to turn sour in the next hour or so...dun ask me why! mebbe Im jinxed? :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Cess and Hemz...yes I will go to Hemz' wedding even if Im uninvited! The pressie wud be a blog post :):)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Prakhar tnxx!


**being single really sucks

why???? its one of the HOTTEST features to hv in this era! ;-)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Hemanth for stopping by :)

Keshi.

Cess said...

@ Vinz aka Vinu

++ you cant marry a woman..!!++
well he he technically I could marry a woman in France actually, not in a church but with the mayor of the city ;)

++do you feel there is a scarcity of real men..??++ well as I said earlier, study made saying that there is only 1 man for 4 women what do i have left???? if u removed the married one, the gay, the psycho one and the grandpa??? Not much :(
tc

C.

Keshi said...

ty Stony that was a real good comment!


**The real challenge for both men and women is to decipher what is spoken into what is expected.

Spot on! And yes it's a CHALLENGE. The fact that some men dun wanna take that challenge is the sad thing. The men I hv met run away from committment..only for very silly reasons.

And yes, the grass always seems greener on the other side :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

**are u single btw? ;)


hahaha Cess yes I wish Stony was single too...but he's not. :(


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Southy its not generalised...its OUR experiences with the men we hv met so far. And NO we hvnt met ALL the men in the world. :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty SMM!

ur a luck girl...and Arjun is a lucky guy :)



**And give the guy a chance


I hv given them a chance SMM! its not that I dun even look at them and Im too HIGH up there and unreachable :) The last I went on a Date was with Mr.Darcy in Jan 2007. We broke up in 7 days. Why? Cos his dad and sis thought the fact that we were the SAME AGE is not right. LOL! Men r weird!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Bla ty!

Im not into 3soms tho lol!

*HUGZ* oyes I'll marry u Bla! :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Ish HUGS!

yes...single or married, we all hv our HIGHs and LOWs. Well-said girl!


Keshi.

Cess said...

@ Keshi

++ hahaha Cess yes I wish Stony was single too...but he's not. :(++
he he I was just curious because of the comment he made to see if he was single or not!
But as I said to Hemanth it would so cool if 2 people who comment on this post get along and get married!!! It would be like a fairy tale too ;)
'How did u met?' 'well we met through a post about y 2 hot chicks are single?' :D


++its OUR experiences with the men we hv met so far. And NO we hvnt met ALL the men in the world. :)++
I think we did not have met that point clear enough, cause lots of readers seem to think we are talkin about all the men :)

[Hugsss]

C.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Abhinav!

**It's good to be single till you fell in a strange feeling people call love

trust me, I hv FALLEN in love and then hv been woken up to my senses within a day or 2. lol!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Ani and Stony, some very interesting points there!

In my life so far, I hv been watching my aunts n uncles, mum n dad, friends etc...where the cooking, cleaning etc is MOSTLY done by the woman. no matter how advanced these ppl r or where they live. :) Its an EXPECTATION from the woman I suppose.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Tarun ty!

we should do a JOINT post some time ha...wut say? ;-)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

** "baptism by fire."

I somehow like that one Tarun! Its a very difficult challenge, either way, I agree.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Jack!


**all fingers are not same

Jack we didnt say ALL men r like that. We only wrote abt OUR experiences :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

haha Murane, we'll try next time! ;-)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

haha Donn this is why I love ur input in posts! Ur unique, realistic and so very understanding!


**If you were desperate or insecure you would grab Mr Goodenuff and be done with it.


Exactly! I dun settle for less.


LOL @ last part of the comment!


THOUGHTFUL U R SIR, YES!

Ur wife is a very very lucky girl. :)


*HUGZ*


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Amit! :)


**and the importance of doing one's own work gets realized.In that sheltered environment-no way-the situation will always continue,there'll always be ego clashes

I so agree! MOST Desi men r self-damagingly DEPENDENT on their families.


ur right...move out from home and even the country if possible LOL!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

And Amit...


**Since the perfect scenario is never possible, what is the 'bare minumum' target you'd set,to get the right partner?

I dun hv one...I want the man I meet to SET THAT TARGET. ;-)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hemz PERFECT dun exist my dear friend...

Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Mia HUGS!


**the biggest mistake ppl make in a marriage is thinking things will change after marriage or i will change him/her


I so agree! My sis, even to date says that she'll be able to CHANGE a guy after marriage...I tell her that wont happen! We cant change ppl when we ourselves cant change us!

Ur so spot on there!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Ani I agree.


**its not very difficult to have a mutual understanding about things.

thats so true. But alot of ppl just base their hopes abt a partner on FALSE premises. Such as Age, Race, Assets, Career etc...and that prevents them from even getting anywhere close to UNDERSTANDING the PERSON.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Vinu there isnt a scarcity of men at all, there's alot of donkey-riders yes!



**dont give such lame excuses and find a guy and get married..!!

LAME? let me put it this way...I dont settle for 2nd best nor for the society.


:):)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

haha Cess ur replies r hilarious, luv ur sense of humor hun!


**'How did u met?' 'well we met through a post about y 2 hot chicks are single


LOL! We cud say 'they met in a blog post' :) how cute!



yes, alot of ppl here seem to think that we were talking abt ALL men. btw I hvnt dated every man on Earth..if I did, I should be dead by now! :)


Keshi.

Pearl said...

I did! I made it all the way through!

I need chocolate!

Nicely written. You two crack me up.

Pearl

singlendacity89 said...

You 2 gals to a great tag team post!

I laughed so much!!

SO many points I want to comment on.. I will be back!!

Cess said...

@ Pearl

++I did! I made it all the way through!++ he he congratulations!!!

++ I need chocolate!++ i ll recommend some dark chocolate with pieces of almond on it ;)

Thanks for passing by.

tc

C.

Cess said...

@ singlendacity89

++ SO many points I want to comment on.. I will be back!!++
he he !! I m waiting for ur points girl :D

tc

C.

Keshi said...

Pearl tnxx hun ;-)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Ne MWAH mah single hotter! ;-)

Keshi.

Southpaw unplugged said...

@Keshi
Yeah she clarified on that...:)

•♥•♥Vicky♥•♥• said...

was not that long !

i really enjoyed reading it.
The same question that i ask most of the women in my life why do u want to get married??
You girls are so powerful and u can beat us in all departments(if u hadn't already).
I am always in awe of the power women unknowingly possess.

You really nailed it in this post. Keep up the good work.

Cazzie!!! said...

Ok, well, both you girls should stay single if that is your wish. You are both lovely and deserve to be happy whatever way you choose:)
When it does come time to be in love and in a relationship, some advice from me....I am an independant woman too, but I have 4 kids now, I work, I am a professional at that, and well, you have to accept the help sometimes in your life... Like, the changing of that flat tyre...you know, it is ok to have a helping hand from your man, because, one day, he will need your help with something :)
It is all about respect, he needs to respect you, and your privacy, and you his.
End of rant lovely ladies :)

Mystique Wanderer said...

for sake of brevity...i'll say my views are akin to smm's

there are enuf guys out their cribbing about there are no good gurls left these days...its as hosh posh as the extreme view from the other end...

there are always good ppl around...and may god bless us all to find ours :)

Ankur said...

I only know one reason that u both are single!! :P

its me, coz i m not ready to mingle yet!! :D :D :D
heheeh

ROFL!!! :D :D

Hemanth Potluri said...

@kesh...


hahaha ur goin to present me a blog post..i thought u wud present me the new google g1 phone atleast lol..and i hope u keep ur promise that u wud attend my marriage..:)...

@cess @kesh

lol i am perfect :P...hahah

@cess

u to have to keep up ur promise to attend my marriage

i will get married soon so i can se both of u :)..

urs..hemu..

HOBO said...

It is not a question only about single women. The question is same for men too.
Men and Women who are financially independent loves to stay single(if family do not advise too much to get married) until they meet their prince charming or angel...
The whole question revolves around finanacial security no matter it is men or women.
:)
GoodLuck !!!

Keshi said...

hehe Southy ;-) tnxx!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

gee wow ty Vicky! ur one honest man.


R u single by any chance? haha just joking!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Caz MWAH!

ur a superwoman for sure!


** well, you have to accept the help sometimes in your life... Like, the changing of that flat tyre.

haha I agree...u know Im too arrogant ha? lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

I know Mystique...why r u so far away? ;-)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ROFL Ankur good one!

But its true...all good single dudes seem to be so far away from us...or is it us who's far far away from u? :) yes Aus and France r quite far lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hemz u dun hv a GF rite now, ur looking for the PERFECT woman and ur saying u'll get married SOON? LOL!


**i thought u wud present me the new google g1 phone

there u go! that says ur not READY for Committment yet. lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Hobo!

**The whole question revolves around finanacial security no matter it is men or women.


Spot on! its like this. when we r independent, can manage life on our own and are happy, why do we need to make life COMPLEX ha? lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

tnxx Guys, u all brought in something new to think abt.

Keshi.

Hemanth Potluri said...

kesh dear


love does not ned time i think it may happen in a sec and happen after a year ..i cant predict anything ...yeh i dont have gf ..that does not mean i am gay ;)..lol...i looking for the rite love to strike..me otherwise take a chance and look for a women for me ..:)..not Penelope some other reachable to me..lol..

urs..hemu..

Hemanth Potluri said...

hahaha see its the 143 comment and guess wat i love u both guys ..hahah...

urs..hemu..

lots of hugs for making me come bac from the blues..and tall lady hug to u kesh..

Keshi said...

awwwww Hemz I didnt mean u'll stay single forever...I only meant I dun see a Nov or Dec 2008 Wedding. lol!


*HUGZ* Im glad ur in good spirits now.


Keshi.

Cess said...

@•♥•♥Vicky♥•♥•

++The same question that i ask most of the women in my life why do u want to get married??++
I dont necessarily want to get married actually :) and i m coming with my French point of view now, marriage is a formality for me, a piece of paper u sign. I can live with my man without getting married (plus a divorce is too expensive ;). I don t need a paper to be deeply in love.

tc

C.

Cess said...

@ Cazzie!!!

++I am an independant woman too, but I have 4 kids now, I work, I am a professional at that, and well, you have to accept the help sometimes in your life++
wow dunno how u manage 4 kids and a work at the same time, it s awesome!!! And I totally agree with u, I hope ur hubby help u sometimes !!! ;)

++It is all about respect, he needs to respect you, and your privacy, and you his.+++
YES, YES and YES, all about respect!

Thanks for passing by(i can t believe u have blogs as well on top of work and kids wow!!!)

tc

C.

Cess said...

@ Ankur

++I only know one reason that u both are single!! :P
its me, coz i m not ready to mingle yet!! :D :D :D++
LOOOOOL, dude u ARE hilarious, i can t guess ur next joke, it s always a funny surprise! U even managed to make me laugh in the morning which is rare i must say :)

tc

C.

Keshi said...

Cess hey :)

**I don t need a paper to be deeply in love.


I so agree! I always said that too. D u need a piece of paper, an expensive wedding, a $8000 wedding dress etc just to prove ur love? I dun think so.

And like u said, a divorce is way too expensive these days I'd rather live-in with my man. The problem is my mum and my big fat Sri Lankan family will kill me if I did that! Talk abt CULTURE clashes. Im in Aus and my family is Sri Lankan, so yeah Im kind of a cultural fruit-salad lost in the sea of LOVE lol!



Keshi.

Cess said...

@ HOBO

++ Men and Women who are financially independent loves to stay single(if family do not advise too much to get married) until they meet their prince charming or angel...++
well yes and no, it s not because i m independent financially that i want to stay single longer however i need a man who is financially independent too (cause i m not ready to have a kid!)
:D
C.

Cess said...

@Hemanth Potluri

++ lots of hugs for making me come bac from the blues..++
I m glad u help u a bit :D

Take Car

C.

Ankur said...

@KEshi

its not far, jsut that i m poor not to come... but u guys can visit me!! :D :D
hehe

i m really anxious to meet ya... the beauty will brains (some bit psycho too!! lollzzzzz!!! :D)

and plzzz... i m kidding too!! :D

*hugzzz*
Cheers!!

Ankur said...

@Cess

hehe... if i can bring a smile on someones face, that makes my day!! ;)

:D

btw.... i hope when u laughed it didnt shivers someone in spine!! ;) :D
heheh

Cheers!!

Cess said...

@Keshi

hehe sweetie!
So funny how can we be similar in so many points! I love it!

++ so yeah Im kind of a cultural fruit-salad lost in the sea of LOVE lol!++ LOL, fruit-salad so funny, u said it brilliantly!!! Haven t found one description for meself:)

u tc

C.

Cess said...

@Ankur

++ hehe... if i can bring a smile on someones face, that makes my day!! ;)++ I m happy I made ur day today :)

:D

C.

Keshi said...

omg Ankur yes Im a maniac too...rem my post lol!

I'll come to India...dunno when tho :(

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Cess u'd be a French fries? :):) HUGS cos ur tasty!

Keshi.

Cess said...

@ Keshi

nooooooooooooo, not a French Frie!!!! Why u guys call a fries French??? I know we are the best at cooking :) and some restaurants want to put some french words in the menu cause it sounds more classy like 'potatoes sautées' etc etc but French Fries !!! Common, we re not even into potatoes like the Irish or Belgium!!! It should have been the Belgium fries not the the French one ;(

C.

HOBO said...

1. Marriage - Two people, one soul
2. Money - Two people, individual income
What most people want ?
One soul and individual income
And it is "The Best" but rare.
I say :
There should be emptiness in life always to wish more oxygen... :)
A complete life is boring.
All we have to do is to respect what we have in life and cherish the same...
Remember :
Wishes are unlimited
5 fingers not the same but they work the best when work together...
Enjoy !!!

ani said...

keshi

huggguzzzz
hehe yup.. this is one of my fav topics.. lol..

we can just go on n on n on.. lol..

"There'll always be differences between men and women. Its best to TALK abt it than EXPECTING to u'stand naturally."

the point being .. how many ppl realise that.. and talk things out.. some ppl just end up assuming that yes.. am sure he/she knows that i dont like that thing.. and wouldnt do that.. but sometimes we do not realise things at that moment.. thats why the need to talk..

"Ani the moment I meet a nice looking dude with a good personality etc, its bound to turn sour in the next hour or so...dun ask me why! mebbe Im jinxed? :)"

awww babez.. u r not the only one..even i feel the same.. like i was saying to cess.. either its jinxed or i dont get the signals.. :( dont know whyyyy ...

hehe yup stony and me had a good conversation about hehe wht ppl expect or dont expect and shouldnt expect or taken for granted.. which ever way u put it..

yes even i see tht most of the female members in my family are the one who are cookin or taking care of the house hold stuff.. i think my parents changed because my mom has her back problems.. so my dad wouldnt allow her to do much.. but then again as stony rightly pointed out.. she prefers doing it herself.. but my dad gives the helping hand so i think thats sweett.. hehe especially watching them fight over wht to cook..lol

"But alot of ppl just base their hopes abt a partner on FALSE premises. Such as Age, Race, Assets, Career etc...and that prevents them from even getting anywhere close to UNDERSTANDING the PERSON."

finally it again comes down on talking and tryin to get to know the real person.. and not basing them on their back ground..

hehe guess the comment is becoming bigger than the post now.. lol..

Hemanth Potluri said...

@cess...

take car aaa...wat is ur car i goin to come and take it..lol..just kiddin..it helped me a lot commenting here .:)..

urs..hemu..

Winnie the poohi said...

Umm I have had an childhood wherein my dad always helped mom. It was true that se was the major "chores doer" but well since she was working and we were kids.. dad helped her all the time.. from cooking to washing utensils..

But I do know its not same for everyone...

Well When I thought Why I am single.. the first thing is I like being single.. Its like being a free bird :)


@ discussion.. Whoa 161 comments?? nothing like a boi vs gal discussion isnt it ?

It is always a hit!.

•♥•♥Vicky♥•♥• said...

@ keshi

i am single and happy ;D

have read a lot about you on other blogs..it's time to visit yours. ;D

@ Cess
thats what i try to tell girls all the time..are yaar what's the need of a man(other than having kids)??

that's y i thni the lesbos must be the happiest couples.

Cess said...

•♥•♥Vicky♥•♥•

++are yaar what's the need of a man(other than having kids)??++
He he, we can have some fun with men ;) not just for the kid.

++ that's y i thni the lesbos must be the happiest couples.++ it s easier to have kid when u re are a straight couple than a lesbian one, and I m sure lesbians also have bad moments in their couple!

tc Rainboy

C.

Cess said...

@Hobo

++Remember :
Wishes are unlimited
5 fingers not the same but they work the best when work together...++
he he I like ur fingers expression ;)

I ll keep update once i get married (if I get married) to see if we keep our individual income separately ;)
tc
C.

Cess said...

@Hemanth Potluri

++.it helped me a lot commenting here .:)..++
Good for u man, I m glad we can help ;)

C.

Cess said...

@ Winnie the poohi

++Umm I have had an childhood wherein my dad always helped mom. It was true that se was the major "chores doer" but well since she was working and we were kids.. dad helped her all the time.. from cooking to washing utensils..++

wooow, that s cool, my dad was never there (too much work) so I was not very helping, we were taking pictures of him when he was cleaning the dishes (sitting on the chair... yep the lazy way ;)

++Well When I thought Why I am single.. the first thing is I like being single.. Its like being a free bird :)++

me too, specially when I m doing a small travel (4 days) I like to do whatever I want, it s really cool!!!


++@ discussion.. Whoa 161 comments?? nothing like a boi vs gal discussion isnt it ?++

he he, I think we can talk about women/men relationship forever!!!!

cheers

C.

Shionge said...

Yo Keshi!!!

Yo Cess!!!

I wanna be SINGLE again, can someone please turn back the clock??

I know I know I know, I know why you wanna be single and don't get me wrong, I am happily married despite ups and downs, BUT (AHEM...always a but) if I could live all over again.

But Lo and Behold!! I can't so I just wanna say, enjoy being single, enjoy life to the fullest and nothing wrong being a independent confident woman!!

Hurray to both of you and cheers to your current statues ;)

Cess said...

@Shionge

++I wanna be SINGLE again, can someone please turn back the clock??++ he he

++I am happily married despite ups and downs, BUT (AHEM...always a but)++ unfortunately there is also ups and downs in a Single relationship with urself ;)

++enjoy life to the fullest and nothing wrong being a independent confident woman!!++ thanks

Thanks for passing.
Cheers

C.

Aneesh said...

Well, first of all, there is nothing wrong in a person being single and no rule suggests one should be married.

Being in a relation mean both side has to do some kind of adjustments. It's the relation between entirely different individuals. Not the one between the same person.

We cannot always say I am this, so you need to be like this. it's not "I am" anymore once you are in a relationship. If you go and work for a firm, you'll work according to it's rules and whether it is suitable for you. if you want to do what ever you want and still want to work for that firm, then it's impossible.
Marriage has its value, if both persons realize it. Before going for that, trying to understand each other is good.
'N feeding the children and playing with them is not a job to switch between. Today I gave food for my daughter, tomorrow you give the food. What is it?
One should feel that the kid is their own and doing something for them is not a job.

Nirmal said...

this post made me happy...atleast this said two beautiful gals in this world r single....

Cess said...

@ Aneesh said...

++Well, first of all, there is nothing wrong in a person being single and no rule suggests one should be married.++ Never said something was wrong with me :)

++Being in a relation mean both side has to do some kind of adjustments. It's the relation between entirely different individuals. Not the one between the same person.++ I know, compromises is part of the relationship between 2 people.

++We cannot always say I am this, so you need to be like this. ++
Of course not, I just say (don t know if u talking about my speech or Keshi one ) but I am who I am u can t change me 100% there s no point for me to stay with u if u don t appreciate me for who I am as person and vice versa.

++N feeding the children and playing with them is not a job to switch between. Today I gave food for my daughter, tomorrow you give the food. What is it?
One should feel that the kid is their own and doing something for them is not a job.++
Did we mention kids? Now personally, I was talking about my man and me, no I won t cook all the time for him, I might came later than him from work sometimes, I can also cook too, it s not a woman 'chores'. As for the kid, we were two to make it happen, we will also be two to raise him/feed him, of course i m not gonna count how many time i feed my kid compare to my husband, but once again if i m not free and my husband is free I expect him to do it, is it a pb?

Thanks for sharing ur thougths with us.

Cheers
C.

Cess said...

@ Nirmal
++this post made me happy...atleast this said two beautiful gals in this world r single....++

he he thanks :) but u should be even more happy as a study said there is 4 women for 1 man (in terms of population) see u have more choice than us:)

thanks for passing by, dont hesitate to pass by again :)

Cheers

C.

Nirmal said...

@keshi..

the man scans gals..tats y he met u..so tats not bad..

man starts workin 4 long hours...u c i dont have a gf but still this masters makes me work harder...u know how bosses keshi are...!!!!

**The man is a momma's BOY and clings on to her skirt**

man if boy clings to mamma's skirt then he is a kid..if he clings to ur skirt then he is a despo and when he clings to someother gals skirt then he is cheating...cmon keshi grow up...heheheh

Nirmal said...

@cess..

**When u re telling i m pretty and then u asked me for my friend phone number, what should I think**

u shud think "my group is full of pretty gals"..

when he asks what u want tonite...u shud answer him...but please not " a diamond ring".hehehe

bout cooking tats romantic if both are in kitchen..in kitchen..oops its sexy too...

Nirmal said...

and staring at two beautiful pics and reading post is definately multi-tasking...wat say..

Nirmal said...

@cess...

4 gals for 1 boy..

hmm i found 2...wheres the remaining ...mothers womb...hehehe

Cess said...

@ Nirmal

++u shud think "my group is full of pretty gals"..++ yes I know that, but trying to make me feel pretty to ask my friend s phone is lame! But I m not in school anymore, these teckniks are so bad!

++when he asks what u want tonite...u shud answer him...++ yeah but not ALL the time, he can also say what he wants to do, we are two people in a relationship I should not be the only one making decision!

++and staring at two beautiful pics and reading post is definately multi-tasking++ that s not a multi tasking skill dude :)
answering comment, while working, while talkin to ur colleague IS multitasking ;)

++4 gals for 1 boy..
hmm i found 2...wheres the remaining ...mothers womb...hehehe++
that s my point, it s not fair, easier for guys to find one than girls to find a man!

rantravereflect/ jane said...

hii kesh n cess!
awesome idea of posting together, n putting up a grt post at that..

@keshi-->
the man becomes a donkey rider *no pun here!*. bwwwauhhh,, i only read the pun;)
I just want a man who can love me for me, and not for someone he wants me to be. So simple a request yet so hard to come across. Go figure!

soooo very true! i dun understand how much louder we gotta be about that..

lol at 1924;


@cess
that's teh best mono-dialogue of the year; and it happens in every relationship, n it's a funny thing, but that's how it is!

ME: what do u wanna do tonite
HIM: what you want
2 days later
ME: what do u wanna do tonite
HIM: what you want
1 wee later
ME: what do u wanna do tonite
HIM: what you want

it's like cess taking to a cissy!
"food in France is like Religion in India."
wowwww :) that's a kickarse comparison..

is marriage in france like food in india then?
;)
(btw we're very picky abt food in india, n no matter what cuisine we love, we still loveeeee to death our indian khana)

:)

loved the joint post..

keep em cumin in!!

Cess said...

@ rantravereflect/ jane

++it's like cess taking to a cissy!++

++wowwww :) that's a kickarse comparison..
is marriage in france like food in india then?++
he he, i don t think marriage in France is like food in India, cause marriage in France is not so popular these days so...

++btw we're very picky abt food in india, n no matter what cuisine we love, we still loveeeee to death our indian khana)++
he he, I m not just picky, food is the whole thing, it s way more than being picky, my parents brought really young in nice restaurant, and pretty all my family is an excellent cook, with their own speciality like my mum is the one who do the big dishes, my dad it s the bbq, my grandpa cooking fish, my grandma it s the way she makes the salsa/dressing, my uncle does the best fries ever and so on so on ;) It s a culture thing!!!

Thanks for passing by, and keep coming :)

tc

C.

Keshi said...

there u go Cess, French Fries is an Aussie term lol!

I know the French r very good with their food. :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hobo that was good wow!

**A complete life is boring.


I agree! My life is FAR from perfect but I love it just the way it is.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Ani I agree with every word u said!


Understanding mite even come later in life, after marriage...like ur very sweet mum n dad :) Its all a learning process. But the men I meet dun even hv a subtle hint of being able to u'stand later on in life LOL!


*HUGZ* ur a beautiful girl both in and out. Im sure some day, a very lucky man is gonna sweep u off ur feet. ;-)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Winnie ty sweetie!


** I like being single.. Its like being a free bird

ur spot on! I feel the same...so free and relaxed. When I last had a BF, I was so stressed out!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Vicky ty!


Yes, ur most WC anytime at my online home :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Shionge, but ur a SUPERWOMAN like Caz is. Kudos to ya both!



**I wanna be SINGLE again, can someone please turn back the clock??

lol this is wut all my married cuzns and friends say too!


I guess the grass seems greener on the other side. But both statuses hv their ups and downs. :)


*HUGZ* lady u know u rock!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

I agree with u totally Aneesh..it should not be seeing as a chore...it should come NATURALLY.


**Well, first of all, there is nothing wrong in a person being single and no rule suggests one should be married


try telling that to my mum, aunts and uncles LOL! They think Im weird and wondering why I dun wanna get married (not yet) unlike most girls out there do! :):)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Nirmal so u wanna marry both of us? Rem the diamond responsibility will be doubled then. lol!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Nirmal lol tnxx!

**the man scans gals..tats y he met u..so tats not bad..


yeah but after having SCANNED me, he better be blind to other chicks. hahaha!


U can multi-task? wow I didnt know. So when ur watching tele with ur wife, u'll be working on ur project on ur notebook? :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...
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Keshi said...

ty Jane MWAH babez!

**the man becomes a donkey rider *no pun here!*. bwwwauhhh,, i only read the pun;)


lol I knew u'd get that. yeeeeeeeehaaaaaaaa! ;-)


I think Marriage in India is like Food in France and Sports in Australia lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww Cess I think u hv a very warm, happy and close-knit family. Lovely!


Keshi.

Solitaire said...

Damn!! I am here so terribly late!
Missed out on a funnily truthful post all these days!

I have no questions. I understand. :)

Keshi said...

haha Sol u hv no qns and u u'stand. Good one babe! :)

Keshi.

stony said...

@Keshi and Cess

French-fries is a distortion of french-fried-potatoes. French-fried did not mean fried-in-France. It meant fried-in-a-French-way, probably deep-fried.

They have Belgian origination and a century old culinary history and etymology.

Cess said...

@ solitaire

++Damn!! I am here so terribly late!
Missed out on a funnily truthful post all these days!++ it s never late :)

++I have no questions. I understand. :)++ feminine psychology we understand each others ;)

tc
C.

Cess said...

@stony

++French-fries is a distortion of french-fried-potatoes. French-fried did not mean fried-in-France. It meant fried-in-a-French-way, probably deep-fried.++
As a French I have to say something, of course i does not mean fried in France, my god if all the french fries were fried in France it would be weird, but French Way deep fried, i would not agree much on that, we don t fried everything here, u should pass by Ireland, they fried everything the fruits, the brocoli everything is fried fried fried! So i still don t agree to call it the French fries, we don t call that 'frites francaises' in France, only the translation of fries that s it! :D

C.

stony said...

@Cess

Not MY ideas. It is on Wikepedia. This is history.

Cess said...

@stony
++Not MY ideas. It is on Wikepedia. This is history.++
Everybody can write on wikipedia :D

Princess Mia said...

@cess

*high five hehehe

n yeah i just dont understand teh concept of F*** buddies man....

i have never been to france but i fancy going to south of france....heard so much abt that side of france.....